Counselor • AUTHOR • researcher • speaker
Breathing life, speaking truth, and
bringing us back together again.
For over twenty years I have worked with people. I have worked with them behind the confidential doors of the counseling and coaching office, with teams developing programs that make a meaningful impact, and in front of a large group of leaders- inspiring them to lead with assertiveness and curiosity.
I love stepping into the dark shadows most run away from- confusion, crisis, even pain. I love it because there is something beautiful about someone journeying beside you, holding onto hope until you find it again, or telling you it is okay to feel stuck. If that is where you are, then I can’t wait to work with you. Whether you are looking for yourself, your team, or your organization, let’s get you unstuck.
Oh, and I also study culture- because we were created to live and thrive in community. There is no healthy way to run from it and there is no screen or Ai that can replace it. It is where we get hurt, learn to repair, and give back- and where we will find joy again. Reconnect- let’s see what we can do together.
ABOUT
Advisor of Human Dynamics & Culture
I’m a licensed professional counselor, qualitative researcher, and author. For decades, I have translated what military families experience into what leaders must act on, and what the institution needs into what families can carry. I curated everything into my book Military Culture Shift. Today, it continues to drive conversations in military academia, steer initiatives for command teams across all branches of service, and encourage military spouses and veterans who are trying to find the words to tell their story.
However, tending to the military culture is only one approach to healing the fractures that exist in our nation today. After twenty years of practicing counseling and coaching, and teaching groups, I have added a certification in Change Management- because it is no longer enough to know how we got here.
The real question is “What will we do now?”
20+
years in practice
3000+
military leaders served in 2025
2
Published books
200+
Podcast episodes
— Now booking 2027
Speaking & Training
No death by PowerPoint.
No wasted time.
Participants leave feeling invested in, equipped, and ready to win the day. In-person and virtual. Faith-based and secular formats.
Each program is built from primary research, doctrinal language, and two decades inside the counseling room. The frameworks are designed to be operationally useful — not just inspiring.
01
The Readiness Gap
Winning in the human terrain is equal to the mission. Give your leadership teams everything they need to understand the shifting landscape of caring for service members and their families.
Recommended for senior leaders, command teams, readiness, and support coordinators.
02
Generational Leadership in a Shifting Force
Your junior enlisted don’t respond to leadership the way you did. The friction isn’t insubordination; it’s a generational shift 20 years in the making. This training draws from 15 years of qualitative research to help leaders understand the generational trends reshaping the force — and learn to lead across them.
Recommended for O-5 / O-6 cohorts & senior spouses
03
Marriage & Reintegration Under Operational Tempo
Deployment, reintegration, and the daily grind of service life don’t just test marriages — they reshape them. This isn’t date-night advice. Designed specifically for military and service-connected couples, these retreats combine clinical expertise with strengths-based frameworks. Topics range from communication and conflict resolution to navigating deployment and rebuilding trust. Faith-based and secular formats available.
Recommended for couples & family programs
04
Culture Consulting & Program Evaluation
Not every organization fits neatly into a pre-built training. I design custom engagements tailored to your audience, your challenges, and your goals. Past custom work includes program evaluation, organizational culture assessments, curriculum development, and strategic advising for military-serving nonprofits.
Receommneded for DoD offices & nonprofit partners
books
Military Culture Shift
The Impact of War, Money, & Generational Perspective on Morale, Retention, & Leadership
15 years of qualitative research — listening to families behind the confidential doors of the counseling office, evaluating defense budget impacts, and tracking generational trends across the force. This book holds up a mirror.
"This book should be mandatory reading for anyone going into Battalion or Brigade Command (or other service equivalent), General Officers, DOD political appointees, and Members of Congress and their professional staffs.”
Sacred Spaces
My Journey to the Heart of Military Marriage
When Secretary of Defense Ash Carter invited me to join his team overseas as the 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, I went hoping to understand my husband’s deployment experience. What I found sitting in the belly of a C-17 — touching memorials, standing where he had stood — was something I didn’t expect: a journey that was about much more than the distance between us
"Sacred Spaces is a window into the soul of patriotic commitment. Your heart will break and heal with every turn of the page."
1-ON-1 COACHING
Whether you lead a team or a family — you don't have to figure it out alone.
Strategic guidance rooted in two decades of clinical experience, leadership development, and real conversations with people navigating the hardest seasons of service life.
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#CORIESPONDENT
Short insights from real training sessions, real poll data, and real conversations with the military community. What leaders need to know and what families wish they could say.
Let's find the next right step — together.
Whether you need a speaker who won’t waste your audience’s time, a consultant who understands military culture from the inside, or strategic guidance for your next chapter.